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A 4 MINUTE READ: Moving Forward In Life

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Can I start by saying Happy Mother's Day to all the beautiful mothers out there. A couple of days late, I know. To all the women reading this, you are the foundation of our homes, your sacrifices are the reason we are who are today and we love you. I am thankful I got to see and spend time with my mum a few weeks ago when she came to visit. The older I get, the more I realize how much of a mummy's baby I am and my mum and I look insanely alike now that I'm older.

Your girl graduated !!! Mama I made it, class of 2018 was gooood? It just occurred to me that one of the biggest moments of my life should have been blog worthy or better yet, vlog worth. Truth is, prepping to that final day was an emotional and physical rollercoster that blogging was the last thing on my mind. There are some things people never tell you about that last push. Its exhausting, its exciting, its feelings of fear, hope and anticipation of a bright future bundled into one. Again, its good to remember that everyone is different but I can't begin to explain how anxious I was about everything coming together.

Looking back, I could write a book about everything I've learnt about myself and the world around me in the last couple of years. One verse that resonated with me during my tough times was Ecclesiastes 3 v 1

"to everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven"

and I learnt to trust in God's timing. Which leads me to my topic of this blog post.

gold chain, forever 21, lace bodysuit, black girl magic

How many times have you planned something and things don't work out the way you want them to ? Its almost counter intuitive to think that planning is the best way forward, yet things sometimes don't ever work according to plan. I have to admit that this notion tends to make me choose not to plan altogether. Experience is the best teacher so let me tell you this, DON'T PLAY YOURSELF. Even though things may not go according to plan, having a plan means you have a direction in your life. The "why or how" you go about it is what determines if it will work or not. When you make plans, seal them with a prayer and declare them in your life and watch God work his hand in your life.

With Uni finally behind me, the future holds so many possibilities for me. I'm excited about the rest of the year because I have so much I have planned in terms of my blog, my personal brand, my career and personal growth.

I still need to figure out how to fix my comment section but your girl isnt tech savvy so if you can help, please drop me an email : slimthickdiva@gmail.com or dm me on IG: @that_slimthickdiva.

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About My Outfit:
Being a student taught me the importance of style on a budget. Looking good doesn't mean you should break the bank. Instead, mix and match pieces and work well with your body type. You know over the years I've grown to love thrifting. I thrifted this amazing skirt (the print is so in right now). I'd been wanting one of these skirts for the longest time but couldn't justify spending over $20 on a skirt like this so I purchased this for a whooping $5! Yep, you read right, $5. I paired it with a bodysuit from Urban Behavior (which was $10) and the belt was $5.99. I, being the shoe addict I am, don't mind splurging on a nice pair of shoes. I got these clear babies from Steve Madden as a graduation gift to myself (one of many by the way) on sale as well. To complete the look, I revamped an old wig to give this look the finishing touch it deserves. Yay or nay ??

I plan to post more regularly now that I have loads of free time on my hands.

Have a blessed week.
xx

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One life lesson: Moving on from toxic friendships

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I bumped into a friend the other day, or should I say an old friend maybe? I was really happy to see them but sad on the most part because of how things have changed between us.Its heartbreaking to know that we were once very good friends, but in that moment a lot felt different.I mean the air was different, the jokes had a bitter after taste and I couldn't help but wonder how our friendship became like that of 2 complete strangers. I mean there's no love lost but then its not like we are still as close as we used to be. The aftermath of this interaction, of course, was me thinking of the reasons why we aren't friends anymore because we'd once shared great laughs, secrets and our future dreams etc. Then I remembered, remembered how toxic the friendship ended up being for me, the constant judgement I'd felt in moments I felt I needed my friend the most, jealousy, betrayal just to name a few and I realized that I'm happy to wish my friend (ex) well from afar.

Sometimes, because something was good once upon a time doesn't mean you should go back to it. A lot of people are scared of being alone and would rather stay in friendships that are toxic just so that they can say they have friends. Growing up has taught me that its ok to let go and let God. When a friendship or relationship isn't serving the purpose it should be in your life, then its ok to let go so that you can be your best self. You really become like the people who you spend the most time with, and if you are in a negative space, you'll breed negativity into your life. In everything, no matter how hard it may seem at the time, walk away and you'll be surprised how life turns out. It obviously won't be easy because there's a level of comfort there that would take a long time to rebuild with new people (which is so tedious) but its all worth it. Remember quality over quantity

ABOUT MY OUTFIT: I'm all about clean lines and I always struggle to find a pair of pants that fits great. These stripped pants are so in right now and make me look a lot taller than I am (I'm 5'4 believe it or not. I paired them with a crisp white shirt and red heels for a pop of color.

Have a blessed week divas and thank you for dropping by

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God, Goals, Growing and Glowing

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The 5: Traits I've cultivated to lead a positive life

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Trust God’s timing

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HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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Long time no blog post! or should I stick to a more conventional greeting and say Happy New Year? I don't know, either way I am thankful that you made it into this beautiful year alive and well enough to be reading this post today.

I'm a little late to this 2017 new year new me party, and to be honest I'm a proud member of the "my year starts in February" club. Last year was filled with so much adventure, personal growth and a toppling, busy schedule that a part of me was sad to see the year go but keen to take on the year head on. In my native language (Shona) we say "kusatenda kuroyi" (meaning that we should always be thankful) and I, of course, am extremely grateful to Jehovah for seeing me through the wonderful year 2016 and proud to look back at my journey and see how far I've come.

So a few things I learnt in the past year that are contributing to some of my new year's resolutions:

Accept things you cannot change: Sometimes life hands you lemons, learn to make lemonade. Not everything goes according to how you plan. My mum always reminds me that its not about how big your problem is that matters, but how you handle it. Make the best of situations you cant change but through it all, remember a flower can indeed grow from the concrete.

Plan ahead, but don't forget to live in the moment: I am the type of person who over-thinks, always planning their next move and sometimes forget to live in the moment. Its easy for life to pass you by when you fail to cherish the beauty in living the PRESENT. I want to live in the year 2017 that one day I'll look back and be able to relive every moment, good or bad.

If they want to be in your life, they will: I am a lover (and no, not in that sense silly!) but when I hold someone dear, I like to go all out for them. You may be wondering what's wrong with that and truth is nothing, until you start wearing yourself thin to please someone or don't get what you give in return. I experienced this in a painful way last year but safe to say I learnt a valuable lesson in return. I was my best self in a friendship until the friendship became a one sided juggle. I fought for the friendship to stay afloat until I pulled back and gave myself that much needed pep talk "people go after what they want in life.. and if they want it bad, they fight tooth and nail to make sure they don't lose it". I dusted myself up, knitting my wounded pride and walked away. This year is for building healthy relationships and friendships.

What did 2016 teach you and what are some of your resolutions?

I went for a polished look for today's look. As a business student, I always have sophisticated pieces handy in my closet. If you look closely however, you will see that I wore my shirt the other way round i.e the front as the back and vice versa. I saw this on pinterest and I had to try it. This is a way to increase ways to expand your closet with a few pieces (way to stay stylish and chic without breaking the bank). I decided to tuck my shirt in, buttoned all the way down because I was going for a clean look but you can tie your shirt up and play around with it depending what look you aim to achieve.