One life lesson: Moving on from toxic friendships
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I bumped into a friend the other day, or should I say an old friend maybe? I was really happy to see them but sad on the most part because of how things have changed between us.Its heartbreaking to know that we were once very good friends, but in that moment a lot felt different.I mean the air was different, the jokes had a bitter after taste and I couldn't help but wonder how our friendship became like that of 2 complete strangers. I mean there's no love lost but then its not like we are still as close as we used to be. The aftermath of this interaction, of course, was me thinking of the reasons why we aren't friends anymore because we'd once shared great laughs, secrets and our future dreams etc. Then I remembered, remembered how toxic the friendship ended up being for me, the constant judgement I'd felt in moments I felt I needed my friend the most, jealousy, betrayal just to name a few and I realized that I'm happy to wish my friend (ex) well from afar.
Sometimes, because something was good once upon a time doesn't mean you should go back to it. A lot of people are scared of being alone and would rather stay in friendships that are toxic just so that they can say they have friends. Growing up has taught me that its ok to let go and let God. When a friendship or relationship isn't serving the purpose it should be in your life, then its ok to let go so that you can be your best self. You really become like the people who you spend the most time with, and if you are in a negative space, you'll breed negativity into your life. In everything, no matter how hard it may seem at the time, walk away and you'll be surprised how life turns out. It obviously won't be easy because there's a level of comfort there that would take a long time to rebuild with new people (which is so tedious) but its all worth it. Remember quality over quantity
ABOUT MY OUTFIT: I'm all about clean lines and I always struggle to find a pair of pants that fits great. These stripped pants are so in right now and make me look a lot taller than I am (I'm 5'4 believe it or not. I paired them with a crisp white shirt and red heels for a pop of color.
Have a blessed week divas and thank you for dropping by
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